As promised, I'm here again on Tuesday. I apologize for the delay because I was stuck with some work in the morning. Anyway, I'm here now and without wasting any more of your time and attention I'd like to address a very important issue. The fear of speaking in public.
It is very easy to go into that shell and it usually happens at an early stage in life. As you grow, you realize that you lack the confidence for speaking out loud in front of a group of people when everyone's attention is focused on you and they're listening to what you have to say. The frequency of these situations will only increase as you move ahead in life. So you have to break out of the shell as soon as possible. It looks like a difficult job, but if you follow a few simple rules it's a piece of chocolate cake.
Rule no. 1 - TRY
What is the worst that can happen? There are some people who might laugh at you for stammering or stuttering (personally I despise the type who do) and will forget about it by the next day. What you gain from this is a sense of accomplishment. You TRIED. That's the only thing you need to do.
Rule no. 2 - TRY AGAIN
Imagine yourself standing beside an escalator that is going up. When you try, you step on to the escalator. A failure is the equivalent of taking a step back on the rising escalator. You are still going up, it is not a setback, it is a lesson that will help your climb.
Rule no. 3 - THEY ARE JUST NORMAL PEOPLE LIKE YOU
The group of people you are addressing are just like you, humans who can see, hear and speak the same way you can. They aren't any reality show judges passing judgment on every vibration emerging from your vocal chords. It isn't the end of the world if you fumble or falter, they would too, anyone would.
Rule no. 4 - IT'S OK TO BE NERVOUS
Confidence and nerves are inversely proportional to each other. The more confidence you gain, the less nervous you will be. You might be the captain of the Debating Team but you will still be nervous on a big occasion. Your nerves will get used to it soon enough, just follow the simple rules.
I'm looking forward to a forum where people can put forth their problems and help us help them.
Until next time, keep trying.
Sid
P.S. - Congratulations to the Lingua Franca Team for a hugely successful orientation program. Hope it gets better and better.
P.P.S. - I am slightly disappointed by the lack of posts on this blog. People other than Deepak should also contribute. (Nice template Deepak, well done)
It is very easy to go into that shell and it usually happens at an early stage in life. As you grow, you realize that you lack the confidence for speaking out loud in front of a group of people when everyone's attention is focused on you and they're listening to what you have to say. The frequency of these situations will only increase as you move ahead in life. So you have to break out of the shell as soon as possible. It looks like a difficult job, but if you follow a few simple rules it's a piece of chocolate cake.
Rule no. 1 - TRY
What is the worst that can happen? There are some people who might laugh at you for stammering or stuttering (personally I despise the type who do) and will forget about it by the next day. What you gain from this is a sense of accomplishment. You TRIED. That's the only thing you need to do.
Rule no. 2 - TRY AGAIN
Imagine yourself standing beside an escalator that is going up. When you try, you step on to the escalator. A failure is the equivalent of taking a step back on the rising escalator. You are still going up, it is not a setback, it is a lesson that will help your climb.
Rule no. 3 - THEY ARE JUST NORMAL PEOPLE LIKE YOU
The group of people you are addressing are just like you, humans who can see, hear and speak the same way you can. They aren't any reality show judges passing judgment on every vibration emerging from your vocal chords. It isn't the end of the world if you fumble or falter, they would too, anyone would.
Rule no. 4 - IT'S OK TO BE NERVOUS
Confidence and nerves are inversely proportional to each other. The more confidence you gain, the less nervous you will be. You might be the captain of the Debating Team but you will still be nervous on a big occasion. Your nerves will get used to it soon enough, just follow the simple rules.
I'm looking forward to a forum where people can put forth their problems and help us help them.
Until next time, keep trying.
Sid
P.S. - Congratulations to the Lingua Franca Team for a hugely successful orientation program. Hope it gets better and better.
P.P.S. - I am slightly disappointed by the lack of posts on this blog. People other than Deepak should also contribute. (Nice template Deepak, well done)
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